Im nervous for him and his new venture but im excited at the same time....to be continued
Monday, September 24, 2012
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Not The Ideal
As I lay my head I wonder about those gay men who dont have a six pack, perfect skin, perfect hair, and teeth. I wonder how they feel being who they are and wonder what their confidence level is like. Do they feel less than, equal to, better than? The media depicts gay men as these statues of the idea of a pefect mans anatomy that in my opinion isnt reality.....just my idea for tonight but i will sign off by saying, no one is less than anyone. You dont have to be what you see on TV. Be a better you, not an idea of something you've seen and may believe to be "ideal"
Gay Minority
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Gay Black Male Stereotypes
Hello Blog Readers,
I'll start off by saying that, yes I am an African American Gay Male and recently I've realized that my ideas of how I perceive myself and my relationship is totally different from what others see me/us as. I never saw myself as being any different that any other responsible man until my partner and I started our adoption process. It was brought to my attention that we may be at a disadvantage when it comes to us being chosen by a birth mother to raise her child.
Maybe it's my naivety, but I truly didn't realize that people saw us to be any different or "lesser" than two gay Caucasian males trying to start a family. Even women within my own race stated they would choose two Caucasian men to raise their black child over two black men. Now this news shocked the holy *crap* out of me but to some degree I understand why. If you look at the media and mainstream television, the only people who are "accepted" or "suitable" to raise a child in the gay community would be those who are of the Caucasian *persuasion*.
For the life of me I can't understand why we "African American Gays" are not profiled to be just as smart, intelligent, or responsible as the next. I suppose it could come from AA Heterosexuals being so critical towards AA Gay Males vs other races, but I'm not sure.
I decided to start this blog because I would really like to get an insight into what people think when they look at two AA gay males? Do they see HIV/AIDS, DL "Brotha's", Dead Beats, Party Animals, Attitudes, Thieves, etc?
As I research this topic I will continue to post my thoughts, questions, and concerns. I am hoping with the help of my future readers, I will be able to get a better understanding as to what stereotypes people see when they see "us". I am not here to cast judgement or to argue other points of view, just simply feeding my curiosity.
Thanks for taking the time to read and I can't wait to here from you,
Gay Minority
I'll start off by saying that, yes I am an African American Gay Male and recently I've realized that my ideas of how I perceive myself and my relationship is totally different from what others see me/us as. I never saw myself as being any different that any other responsible man until my partner and I started our adoption process. It was brought to my attention that we may be at a disadvantage when it comes to us being chosen by a birth mother to raise her child.
Maybe it's my naivety, but I truly didn't realize that people saw us to be any different or "lesser" than two gay Caucasian males trying to start a family. Even women within my own race stated they would choose two Caucasian men to raise their black child over two black men. Now this news shocked the holy *crap* out of me but to some degree I understand why. If you look at the media and mainstream television, the only people who are "accepted" or "suitable" to raise a child in the gay community would be those who are of the Caucasian *persuasion*.
For the life of me I can't understand why we "African American Gays" are not profiled to be just as smart, intelligent, or responsible as the next. I suppose it could come from AA Heterosexuals being so critical towards AA Gay Males vs other races, but I'm not sure.
I decided to start this blog because I would really like to get an insight into what people think when they look at two AA gay males? Do they see HIV/AIDS, DL "Brotha's", Dead Beats, Party Animals, Attitudes, Thieves, etc?
As I research this topic I will continue to post my thoughts, questions, and concerns. I am hoping with the help of my future readers, I will be able to get a better understanding as to what stereotypes people see when they see "us". I am not here to cast judgement or to argue other points of view, just simply feeding my curiosity.
Thanks for taking the time to read and I can't wait to here from you,
Gay Minority
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